This is the poem that I wrote for and then read at Gemma and Trevor’s wedding.
For G&T on their Wedding Day
The first night you met
The stars where not set
Nothing did align
So you had to meet for a second time
To make yourselves known
For the flint to strike the stone
For the leaping, crackle to twinkle in her eye
The glint that meant Gem had met her guy
From Gypsy hill to Marylebone
Love was shown
And in the snow and rain
In Grande Bornand
Gem asked Trev to her hand
And so we celebrate this medley
Of G and T
An actuary and anthropologist,
an activist and artist,
an Oxford high schooler and a So-tea soul searcher.
A yogi and textile pattern maker,
Two deep thinking feminists,
A doctor and a Mr
So what can we teach you on the art of loving each other well
You have smarts and heart,
You’ll work it out
But if you’re ever in doubt...
There never has been any good advice. Each marriage is unique.
So the best advice is, don't listen to advice. Find your own mojo! Make your own rules!
And welcome to an endless sleep over with your favourite wierdo
Adventure together - no matter how big or small the adventure may be.
Put a problem out in front of you, not between you.
Remember that feeling when you first fell in love
Never go to bed angry
Or to sleep without a kiss
Never have more than three cushions on the marital bed.
With issues.Don't ignore them.
Don't assume she's listening
Don't go to bed on an empty stomach!
Give each other space
Give your best to each other each and every day.
And Give in. Occasionally
Be as spontaneous as you can as often as you can
Be honest with each other even when you are ashamed.
Nourish your dreams and desires
Nurture your individual and shared passions
Retain your own Joy and blossom in your shared Joys too
Hold hands and face the world together
Learn the wisdom of small compromises
Think twice, speak once.
And split decision making
Enjoy each other
Enjoy making it up as you go along.
And enjoy the journey
I could go on and on
But instead please, raise your glasses:
I give you Mr and Mrs John.